I always has been insistent towards being open to the people around me. I wanted to express my thoughts and actions to everyone so that they can recognise me. But I didn't mean it in a selfish perspective. I never wanted to grab others attraction. I just wanted them to learn from my ups and downs. It may seem over confident. This misconception is also the problem of being Open to all.
One of my friends said once, "Unfortunately this world had created many misconceptions." I totally agree with her particularly at this point of time in my life. What do you think are the conflicts of being Open? Is it a mistake to tell your friend that you want to develop your skill in particular area before doing so? Is it a mistake to share your friends about your view on something to make them realise you are strong in that point? Is it a mistake to confess to your friend that you are having certain problems which you are unable to find a solution? Aren't they friends who can understand what you are upto? Do this kind of Openness cause any misuderstandings among your friends? Is it good to be Open to everyone?
Yes it is good, unless and until people start Judging you. It is one of the most intriguing thing to digest specifically when some one who knows you so long judges you based on your open talks and thoughts. Why this judgemental attitude of others is frustrating me so much?
One thing I learnt from 20 years of my life is that, I can never keep improving if I never keep participating in things. I have come across number of things which had proved me that my early attempts had paved numerous ways to learn new things. I think that is how I am realising the misconception of others by being Open to them. I said "realising" not "understanding". If I use the word understand, in one or other way it may mean that I am judging them. I don't want to judge anyone rather than me. And also no one ever will like getting judged by others.
One part of me asked me some questions. "What is the problem now? Can't you just let it go? Is it your EGO stoping yourself from accepting the truth?"
I thought of it not once, but twice. I can't let it go and continue to be what I was before. But at the same time, I am not being egoistic in this situation. Because I am not questioning "How can they judge me like that?" Instead am questioning "Why are they judging me even after knowing me?" This is not just a question came out by frustration. There are many reasons behind it.
At one point of time all have to let go a thing in order to gain another thing. What I thought is good for others had become bad for me. What I thought is bad for others had become the common habit of them by which they also become part of the world which I don't want to be in. Yes I don't want to be in that world or I don't have to be Open to the people who belong to that world. I can never make them understand until they want me to prove myself through my action.
-Confessed.
One of my friends said once, "Unfortunately this world had created many misconceptions." I totally agree with her particularly at this point of time in my life. What do you think are the conflicts of being Open? Is it a mistake to tell your friend that you want to develop your skill in particular area before doing so? Is it a mistake to share your friends about your view on something to make them realise you are strong in that point? Is it a mistake to confess to your friend that you are having certain problems which you are unable to find a solution? Aren't they friends who can understand what you are upto? Do this kind of Openness cause any misuderstandings among your friends? Is it good to be Open to everyone?
Yes it is good, unless and until people start Judging you. It is one of the most intriguing thing to digest specifically when some one who knows you so long judges you based on your open talks and thoughts. Why this judgemental attitude of others is frustrating me so much?
One thing I learnt from 20 years of my life is that, I can never keep improving if I never keep participating in things. I have come across number of things which had proved me that my early attempts had paved numerous ways to learn new things. I think that is how I am realising the misconception of others by being Open to them. I said "realising" not "understanding". If I use the word understand, in one or other way it may mean that I am judging them. I don't want to judge anyone rather than me. And also no one ever will like getting judged by others.
One part of me asked me some questions. "What is the problem now? Can't you just let it go? Is it your EGO stoping yourself from accepting the truth?"
I thought of it not once, but twice. I can't let it go and continue to be what I was before. But at the same time, I am not being egoistic in this situation. Because I am not questioning "How can they judge me like that?" Instead am questioning "Why are they judging me even after knowing me?" This is not just a question came out by frustration. There are many reasons behind it.
At one point of time all have to let go a thing in order to gain another thing. What I thought is good for others had become bad for me. What I thought is bad for others had become the common habit of them by which they also become part of the world which I don't want to be in. Yes I don't want to be in that world or I don't have to be Open to the people who belong to that world. I can never make them understand until they want me to prove myself through my action.
-Confessed.
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